This sight compelled me to yank out my journey and write until my fingers bled, or as the case may be, my flight to London boarded. I wonder how my aura or essence changed as I made my way through my month-long journey? Did I too wear a more humbled mask, one that was more open and exposed? Does this openness of spirit (aura or essence), provide the doorway through which the lessons of the universe make their entry? Is this how the epiphanies find their way into my consciousness? Wow, I like this. And, when I too find my way to safer ground, so to speak, do I shield myself from these gifts? In other words, metaphorically speaking, have I closed my door to the gifts available via universal new experiences, by wearing a different, closed off and cocky mask? The mask that says "been here, done that - nothing more to see, do, or learn". I often think about how I wear my confident, successful, adult mask so often that I fail to see the wonders of the universe I witnessed daily as a young boy.
How do I, how do we collectively, continue our lives in a more humble, childlike state of wonder that we manifest while traveling once we return to our lives back home? I contend that this state of openness (humble vulnerability) we take on during the travel experience, is quite literally what people call LIVING IN THE NOW. We open ourselves to see, feel, and taste the second by second moments of our lives as we open our eyes to see the scenery of each new place, our noses capture foreign smells, our ears hear distance repetitions and unfamiliar sounds, our taste buds fully savor the complexities of differently prepared cuisine, and our skin feels the warmth of the sun more organically. We process these things from a heightened sense when we travel to new places. We are alive, living the now moments. Travel then, delivers to us the gift we seek, living our lives in full consciousness of the moment.
Can it be continued? Can we go through our typical, normal days and still live in this state of perfect awareness and open consciousness? Can we begin to re-appreciate the everyday moments, the usual stuff, the everything we we already know and typically ignore because we are too busy and focused with getting on with the business of our lives - the doing, the achieving, the planning, the plotting, the learning, the worrying about past and future events. What beyond a reasoned and conscious effort to experience the brilliance of now, can be done to stay in the moment?
As I sit and write this at Venice's Marco Polo Airport, my mind is already racing to the future that is not here, now. I wonder about the stack of mail waiting for me, the business concerns, the clients that may need something, my tenants, the planning involved for my next trip (for the month of November!) to Australia. I am being pulled out of now which is scary since I am decidedly focused on trying to write about the exact issue. Our minds go there, toward the future, and formulate events based upon the experiences of our past. This back and forth, from past to future, robs us from our real lives - the ones we are experiencing currently. What is it about vacations, or what most of the world calls being on holiday, that puts us in the now? I think I want to replace the word now, with the word new. This is helping me communicate the essence of the point. If we think of living in the now back home, let's think of living our lives back home in the new. Are not new things, the goal of most vacations - breaking away from the monotony of our lives to do something different, go somewhere foreign, or experience something varied. Through taking vacations and holidays, we break the monotony of the fear-based, anger-based, and angst-based daily lives we lead. So caught up in our past dramas, most of us live through our daily lives with anxious thoughts of our futures.
Completely ignoring our past and/or totally denying plans and goals for our futures, would indeed, be folly. However, what I am considering is a return to the now - the ecstasy we feel on vacation - more often than our current paradigm of preoccupied consideration of the past or preoccupied worry, planning, and anxiety of and for our futures. Speaking of our pasts, maybe we should ask ourselves a simple, pointed question - "what did I learn from the experience, gain from the experience, or realize about the experience that so fascinates, controls, or paralyses me to the point where it predominantly occupies my mind?" Stop reliving it over and over in your mind. Stop projecting it into your future by having it dominate your current thoughts. Simply answer the question - find the reason, the epiphany, the cause, the point of it. Take that thing and digest it, then move on, away from the past preoccupied dominant thought process. Stop savoring it, stop re-living it, stop re-playing it over and over. It is done. It is over. It is gone. It is not real.
Regarding the future. It seems if we are not stuck in the past, most of us are fixated on the future. I have always suggested to people that what has worked for me is to think about what I want in the future. Once I have a visual of that thing, event, outcome - whatever - I then go about taking the actions or steps to have that thing manifest (to get it, to find it, to become it, to achieve it, etc). To me, that is a very straightforward universal law. I have been guilty of losing focus on the process while becoming fixated on the end, the goal, the outcome. During this trip, I easily could have become obsessed with the very real fear of not finding a way to Venice from Prague after my flight got canceled, that I could have lost track of my now moments during the rest of the trip (some 10 days or so). It would have been silly, yet understandable, if I had become so fixated on getting to Venice, that I allowed this fear/concern to diminish my enjoyment of the now moments during my various points of call.
I have seen people, myself included, so caught up in the future - the imagined fear, goal, plan, or concern, that the now moments escape their grasp. This brings me back to a slight return to the concept of rules. When we focus too much on the rule (which is a fear of the imagined future consequence), most of us stop acting in the moment, thus nullifying a potential new/now moment of awareness, the joy of living the beauty and joy of now consciousness. This is not a suggestion to live a life of complete and reckless abandon. I am, however, suggesting that we do what we have to do to slap ourselves out of being the living dead, contently numb, going through our days (past/future focused) without questioning the rules, the norms, the monotonous routines, we all live, that keeps us handcuffed and chained away from the freedom and beauty of being now, living in the current moment.
While in Rijeka, Croatia, I did allow my goal of finding a way to Venice to overshadow my enjoyment of that city. In retrospect (and in reviewing my blog on that day), I realized I lost almost 26 hours of my life, by fretting about the future. I rushed and huffed around that place so focused on finding my way to Venice, finding an Internet cafe, that I nearly failed entirely to stop and take in the now moments the place offered. I barely looked at the town itself or sought out the venues it offered. Other than a 30 minute coffee break at a outside cafe, I hardly even remember the place at all. Luckily, and honestly, I can say that day in Rijeka was probably the only day I lost during the entire journey. Compared to the countless days I waste back home while consumed with my past and enthralled by my ambitious future goals.
One of the reasons for my trip, the more personal, less professional, is that I had an epiphany a year or so ago, that I had lived my whole life so focused on the end goal (success, however defined), that I nearly failed to live my life or appreciate my days at all. Did I even live my life, or simply follow the pre-set, pre-determined pathway that, if followed and achieved, delivers wealth and so-called success? I am thinking that it was an illusionary path because it stole my now. I used my days as a means to an end (gaining wealth and escaping the poverty of my youth). I filled my days with work, then piled on more work outside of my 9-5 to bring in even more wealth and success. Fortunately, one of the things I do to bring in money and gain the power money offers, is also a passion - rebuilding, renovating, beautifying property and real estate. Following this passion, and getting lost in the power of now, perhaps ironically produced the greatest amount of income. When I broke from the 9-5 game plan (you know the one they tell us to follow), is when I discovered daily bliss. But, too much of the time, instead of enjoying the moments doing the creative things I love, I was hell bent on reaching the goals and pre-set items on my to-do list. Future focused, I grew angry and impatient when things did not proceed efficiently along the lines of my plans.
Instead of the plumbing issues being seen as a challenge, or puzzle to solve and learn from, I viewed it as a financial and timeline spoiler. My perspective was wrong. My mind refused to appreciate the moment, the now of the experience and instead, I stressed about my budget and self-appointed deadlines. Repeatedly, after much agonizing over these types of situations (plumbing, electric, city inspections, etc), I did finally just trust in the universe as well as me being a vehicle for universal eventuality. It has not been until lately, that I have been truly able to appreciate the blessings of my life - that I have received the freedom to work as I please, doing the work that pleases me, while being rewarded spiritually and financially in the process.
This trip has re-awakened my deep appreciation - which is a great way of thanking God, the universal force supplying the purposeful, meaningful events and experiences of my personal, specific journey toward revealed or manifested spiritual perfection. I think this trust opens myself to both accept the past as purposeful (although certainly not always pleasurable or even understandable) while offering me the peace to not worry about the future.
My anxiety regarding money certainly stems from having very little of it growing up back in Indiana. As a kid, the lack of material things impressed my mind, much more than the lack of money on the part of my parents impressed my mind that a lack of money limits options in life and leaves people powerless (real or illusionary). If the goal of the game, of life, is money instead of satisfying our basic needs - food, clothing, shelter, love (and soap and water for me, lol), then yes, a lack of monetary abundance limits your power in this paradigm. If Western capitalism has grasped your value system because of the bright future promised by the system of accumulating wealth and buying the toys and trinkets, brands, and stuff, that it controls your now moments by shifting attention to future attainments (as it did mine), there is absolutely no end to this cycle. There will always be bigger and better toys, fancier homes, more expensive clothes and brands - basically, better materialistic items to acquire or experience.
This is where I finally asked myself how much is enough? When was I going to be happy - the happy I always thought (especially as a poor kid) arrived with financial security? When I passed the threshold of what I defined as financial success, and the sky didn't open up, delivering pure bliss and absolute contentment and happiness, I saw the illusion for what it is. I am not unappreciative of the money I earned, but I am realistic about what it offers. For me, it offered me the opportunity to do some self-assessment and evaluation of my life. It has never been about the money and toys to me (as everyone knows I am anything but a label hound or fancy toy purchaser), but it has always been about the freedom and the power money gives to opt out of dominant thought, customs, norms, rules, expectations, conformity, and the like. It has allowed me to shed the frustration and angst associated with trying to be the best little boy/most accomplished man in the world. Instead, I can replace the expected fulfillment of conformity with a pursuit to find my true, authentic self. Personally, I had to gain a bit of financial freedom to understand this lesson. But, wealth is not the only way to this understanding. Your path toward personal freedom may have nothing to do with money at all, especially if money has never been a priority for you. For some, it is reaching an extreme level of education. Once achieved, this person realizes they had the personal power all along to stand up and claim their independence from dominant thought, customs, and beliefs to pursue their own individual life.
An example of this might be found in the Australians I meet throughout my time abroad. They certainly don't wait until they become millionaires before they leave it all behind to check out the world. No, they work enough to save up a piggy bank full, then crack it open, to travel the world until it runs out. Then, they return home and start the process all over again. It's a totally different mind-set about what is important. They work to live. I used to live to work. Compared to this type of audacity, I am pale.
So, all of this philosophizing brings me back to the same starting point. Why do most of us love to travel and see different things? What is it about our human condition that propels us toward wanderlust? If not the fulfillment of being in the now, brought to us via new moments/places/faces/experiences/foods/customs/norms/sights/beliefs/weather -- then what is it? I find myself circling, as is typical of me when I get myself thinking, back to my original questions. If the goal of travel is more now moments, why don't we do it at home. We certainly can, we certainly are capable of doing it?